‘Care for Me, and I’ll Care for You’ Is Old

The New Rule? Care for Yourself First

For years, business culture has thrived on the idea of “I will care for you, and you will care for me.” While this sounds noble, I’ve come to realize a much more powerful approach: “I will care for myself for you, and you will care for yourself for me.”

At first glance, this might seem counterintuitive. But think about it — who are your friends? They say, “Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are.” The truth is, when you truly care for yourself, you automatically grow. And when you grow, you enrich those around you.

My Personal Journey of Self-Care in Business

Over the last few years, I was constantly invited to participate in business panels, networking events, and speaking engagements. My answer was always the same: “I’m busy.” And I was — busy caring for others, ensuring everything around me ran smoothly. I thought this was the best way to contribute.

Then, I encountered this fresh perspective: Caring for myself first is the best way to care for others. So, I started accepting invitations, engaging in new opportunities, and prioritizing my growth. The results were incredible.

Every new challenge I took on — whether it was learning new skills, expanding my network, or simply taking time to reflect — didn’t just benefit me. It became a resource for others. I started receiving messages from friends and colleagues asking about new tools, advice, and connections. Ironically, by focusing on myself, I was now able to help others even more effectively.

Why This Should Be Your Business Strategy

Personal Growth = Business Growth — The more you develop, the more you bring to your team and partners.

New Skills & Connections Multiply Value — Every skill you learn, every person you meet, extends to those around you.

Fulfillment Fuels More Impact — When you’re fulfilled, you give better advice, create better opportunities, and support others in a more meaningful way.

So, if you want to help others — start with yourself. Care for yourself first, and watch how it transforms not just your business, but everyone connected to you.

What’s one thing you can do today to care for yourself? Let’s grow together!